most important

Being a dad has been awesome. It’s only been two months, but I have found out some very important information in this short time. Before I tell you what this is, let me just say that kids are a blessing. The whole kid thing is so new and exciting for us. Colbie changes everyday which makes it even more exciting. She’s starting to smile which makes me smile. And tear up. I’ve been more emotional since she’s came into the world. Can’t quite figure that one out.

After saying all of this, the most important thing about parenting has to do with my marriage.

I’ve learned that you have to put your marriage before you kids no matter what. You’ve probably seen this done backwards by many families. I know I have. Kids control the parent’s schedule. Everything is centered around the kids. It becomes chaos to everyone. In fact you probably think that’s the way it’s supposed to happen.

But, my advice for new parents (from my short experience) would be to get back to normal as soon as possible. Put your spouse first.