Feb 2010 04
a small difference4
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As I listen to some people I am trying to figure out exactly what they mean by what they are saying. And here’s what I mean by that. Some people when they say something good about themselves it sounds arrogant. Maybe they don’t mean to, but it comes across that way. When I listen to others I can tell there is something like humble confidence. I say “something like humble confidence” because it doesn’t seem to me those two words should ever be used in the same sentence. I can’t really explain it, but there’s a difference. Do you know what I’m talking about?
at first I thought you meant 'confidence' as in private – and I was thinking, "humble confidence" works.
but you didn't mean it in that way.
however it still works because you gotta be confident in your humility otherwise you'ld have an ego problem and one can't be humble with an ego problem? I don't know. just rambling I guess.
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It's all in how people string words together, the tone in which they convey it, and their posture. Some sound arrogant when they talk about themselves and use "I" a lot, as if others haven't experienced things as they have. It's pretty annoying. Humble confidence is a good phrase for the others. They want to share what they feel good about themselves in a way that might make it possible for others to enjoy it, too. They keep themselves at a level with their audience, instead of elevating themselves.
If your talking about when twittering or blogging, then absolutely I agree with Unikornsong. I read a letter to a friend that I was going to send to a different friend and was told not to send it because it wouldnt come across as it was meant to come across. She said it sounded like something that would upset him, when I intended it to be a letter that just explained my actions to him and that would smooth things over. She said what Unikornsong said, "When you write a letter to someone you lose the facial expressions and voice inflections that help to communicate your point." So if its text you mean then its hard to tell.
If you mean vocally face to face, then I'd have the same problem as you. I try to believe the best in people, but it's just not always that way.
i wouldnt know because im widely known for being self deprecating to a fault